There Is Something About King

“How beautiful if nothing more
Than to wait at Zion's door
I've never been in love like this before
Now let me pray to keep you from
The perils that will surely come
See life for you my prince has just begun
And I thank you for choosing me
To come through unto life to be
A beautiful reflection of his grace
For I know that a gift so great
Is only one God could create
And I'm reminded every time I see your face” 
    -Lauryn Hill

Have you ever heard a song that just summed up all your emotions perfectly? For me, that song has to be To Zion by the legendary Lauryn Hill. Every time I hear this song it brings me to tears. She pretty much nailed my exact feelings towards my first born and only son, King. This kid and I connected on a special level as soon as I birthed him. I knew he was special I wasn’t sure on what level others would recognize his greatness all I knew was he was simply great. I’ll admit as mothers we can sometimes be biased to our own flesh and blood but my thoughts towards my son were right on point. Everyone who meets King connects with him on a different level. Yes, he is a handsome little boy with beautiful melanin skin, gorgeous locs, and dimples that melts his teacher's hearts, even that one that gave us a hard time that one year, but he is so much more than that. King is truly one of the dopest kid I know (the other two also being mine of course lol). Sometimes I wonder why me? What have I done to deserve the honor of guiding and nurturing such an amazing being?

“That the joy of my world is in Zion
Now the joy of my world is in Zion
Now the joy of my world is in Zion
Now the joy of my world is in Zion”
    -Laureyn Hill

It didn’t take long for me to notice King was different. As the years passed I noticed he wasn’t very verbal. Many thought it was because I was a stay at home mom and he really didn’t see a need in using his words, I knew what he wanted. Then I noticed he wasn’t referring to me as mom mommy or even ma (for the record mama was his first words). The specialist chucked it up to him being speech delayed, but I knew it was more than that. He didn’t like to be touched, my family deemed him the king of the stiff arm because he was a pro at blocking hugs and kisses. Not only that but direct eye contact was difficult for him. I did my own research and knew exactly what it was, Autism. Getting his diagnosis was a difficult task. The first person I went to see said he was too friendly to be autistic, still trying to figure out what that means. Then I was told because he was extremely intelligent, that he may simply be gifted, these children shared similar traits. While he is very smart I knew this wasn’t the answer I was looking for either. It took one very determined mama (me), a good teacher and an extremely helpful school staff to get me the results I needed. Now King is growing and thriving being his authentic self while always giving us the real, straight up no chaser. I was always taught why fit in when you were born to stand out? I just pray he always remember that Different Is Dope!


The Makings Of A Dope Mom

What does being a dope mom mean to you? Is it being able to continue to have effortless style while carrying a baby and after, you know those moms that are straight slaying motherhood?…. Bringing up bomb babies that match your flyy? What about making sure the whole family sneaker game is on point? #squadgoals Those moms that D.I.Y game is strong oh and the ones that are able to whip up Pinterest worthy snacks are dope too right? Can you consider yourself a dope mom if you are raising tiny humans who don’t know who NWA, Slick Rick, or Uncle Luke is? Ok... so you may still be dope if they don’t know actual lyrics to an Uncle Luke song or haven't watched any of his videos I mean he is the reason parental advisory was created. Does having well-cultured children make you dope? I personally believe being a dope mom can be all of those things and so much more. Let's not forget to add helping build self-esteem, supporting your child’s dreams, and loving them unconditionally to the list. According to the dictionary via google, because let's be honest I did not pick up a Webster for this, the definition of DOPE is very good and MOM means one's mother. So being a dope mom simply means being a very good mother….with a little extra swag.

In an attempt to be a swag worthy BETTER very good mother I took time out before the new year to reflect on myself. What more could I be doing to live my best life? I'm trying to have my Cardi B year Y'all. Living my best life also includes being my best me. Its said you can not fill up one's cup if yours is empty so this year will be my year of self-care. I vow to take care of my mental, emotional, and physical health. Its also said that action speaks louder than words so this right here the That Dope Mom Blog is part of my action. A little space on the internet that belongs to me where I can share, create, and hopefully even inspire. So here is to all you Dope Moms out there crushing motherhood and making mommy moves while hopefully creating some personal care habits of your own.